Sharing something I learned from my dad.

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Okay, so I went for an open house last few days and there was this lady in front of me who was complaining the fact that no one had offered her "ikan kering". We were sat at the main table and apparently everyone there got the ikan kering except for her. And she was making such a big fuss over it till the host; who was sitting next to her went to go and ask for it from the waiter.

A few minutes later, the waiter came with a small plate full of ikan kering. And she was happy. I can say that she was (happy) because when the plate arrived on the table, she smiled with her teeth showing and said "at last, the ikan kering is finally here!". So she must be happy. And yes she was...until she started eating it.

The first thing that came out from her mouth was her set of false teeth falling out to the plate...


Just kidding (but I really wished that had happened..  )


" Unnh...The fish was fried till its as hard as the stone, how do you expect us -she mentioned "US"- to eat it??" - and that was the first thing she said.


Maybe she's being frank and maybe you guys dont see it as a problem but if I was put to be in her shoes I dont think I'd say something like that.. because I know, if my mom was sitting next to me, I'll suddenly get a surprised-pinch at my thigh.......and  ofcourse, especially because what the lady did (in my opinion) was something very rude.

I mean, how would the host feel? Eventhough its something true, but dont you think its somewhat better for us to just keep it to ourselves? well at least if you still want to be frank, shouldnt we say it in a "not complaining" manner?

I felt bad for the host.... and of course, I wished I wasnt at the table that time.. It was awkward coz the host looked pretty embarrased but mashaAllah she still managed to give the lady a smile and an apology.. How nice.. :_)

Thank you Lord, for all the nagging I received by my parents in order to correct my manners. Although I have a little bit more manners issues to overcome myself, but with everyone's guidance, I hope I - we all would not make the same mistake as the makcik. Its really uncool to hurt people's feelings just because you dont get your own way. Be grateful. 



"MAKE DO!" - thats ALWAYS what my parents say to me whenever I told them I need a new mobile or a new keyboard for myself. Even when they KNOW my keyboard has one key off.. ( the last B flat key- my cat vomited at that spot somewhere around last year). So what I did was I asked a Mr.Miracle to fix it for me. (I call him Mr.Miracle coz he can fix almost all the antiques in my house.). Though it doesnt sound as it should but I just had to MAKE DO with it...


Talking about "make do-s". I remembered my first "make do" from my dad. At that time I was in Year 4 (age 10). My mom had this home decorating book and I saw (in one of the pages) a double decker with a study at the bottom and a bed on top. Now I had a double decker. What I did was, I made a project proposal to my dad to transform my double decker to THE super double decker I saw in the book. I convinced him this and that bla bla i need it to enhance my creativity bla bla.. I even prepared and spread out all the screw drivers I found in the toolbox right in front of him just to show to him that I was serious and so up for it.


Shortly after I explained everything, he asked me to sit next to him on our blue sofa (what ever happened to that chair?) and he then told me a story of himself when he was a child and what Sidi (my granpa) had said to him. The story was something similar to my story but I forgot what it was all about... At that time I was only interested in knowing the end of the story-which I know it'll be a disappointment to my proposal- and it was, but I remembered what Sidu told him. He said "Make do with whatever you have, you are lucky that you even own one of those (I think its a bicycle), some people could only dream to own what you have up til they die".

So the moral of the story is to be grateful and just make do with whatever I have.

And I miss you guys... :)

Actually I have like a thousand of draft posts for this blog but I kept on stopping half way.. sorry.. :)

Selamat Hari Raya Maaf Zahir dan Batin..

Please spend 10 minutes of your time for this video. TQ

Bismillahirahmanirrahim
Lets learn from him shall we? :)

Raising up boys...

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As usual, the other day, on the way back from the city, to kill time on the bus from staring at people, my friend and I would talk about one of our favorite topics: "Raising up children".

Background: I do not have brothers. I grew up playing with girls almost 90% of my life. My guys cousins lives far away from where I stayed, so the chance of us meeting would only be on Eid.

I said to him that I could handle girls. InsyaAllah, that wouldnt be a problem to me. My plan for raising up my children would be; if theyre girls, I'll just raise them up just as my parents raised me. But for boys, well I dont have experience with them. I can play with them true. Teach them a bit or two. But I'm scared that I wouldn't be able to understand them. Their thinking, their biological changes- theoretically I might know, but I think it'll be as much as my dad says he understands women going through their menses. Hmm.. He understand it fully but he doesnt experient it himself; therefore, he doesnt fully KNOW whats going on with us. - I think.

And so I told that friend of mine that if I were to have boys (insyaAllah), I'll just leave them to their father. I'll feed them right, clothe them, play with them, bring them to school but the rest i think I'll surrender to the papa.

But his advice opened up my mind...

"No.. You have to think like this, a working father would only have limited time with their children. The only times they may spend time together are during Subuh (max 2 hours before going to work), and from Maghrib till Isha'. The rest of the times the boys will be with you. If you rely on only your husband and let them be on their own, they'll have no guide. Whatmore whilst growing up. They need guidance. Educate them as much as you know. You dont need to know everything. "

Yeah... what was I thinking.. It is right, I dont NEED to know everything..They'll make me understand the things I dont, I'm sure. Just need to be patient. I could actually learn a lot from them.

NEW GOAL : BE A SUPERMOM!
(insyaAllah)

Be curious.. NOT Judgmental..

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JUDGMENTAL PART ONE:

There should be a partition in ones mind between a religion and its adherent. I don't think it is wise to "equate" them both together. Because, religion followers are of different individuals. Some might be of good believers, some might be rebels. They come from many different environmental backgrounds. For example, One shouldn't say Islam is bad just because a group of Muslim men went on a killing rampage at a park. Islam does not promote violence.First of, killing (not in war); in Islamic teaching, is not allowed- PROHIBITED. So where's the connection between Islamic teachings and the crazy Muslim men? Nada! To me I see Islam in these aspects: JUST, RESPECTFUL, AND PEACEFUL. If it violates any of those three main things, i dont consider them teachings of Islam.


JUDGMENTAL PART TWO:

It doesn't mean that a Muslim with a beard as long as an elephant's trunk is better than another Muslim guy who pierces his ear. Who says that a girl wearing tshirt and jeans will go to hell and the woman covered all up with a black abaya will go to heaven? Who says? Who says? Tell me who says that..?( ooohh... Who says who says youre not purdy who says youre not beautiful who says...nananananananana -Selena Gomez) :P .


There's a story about a man who performs zina (adultery), and known for his huge alcohol drinking problem and theft. One day he passed on,no one came to the funeral except for his wife. Everyone else's despised him ans said he'll rot in hell. Suddenly an aalim, a very religious man came to his funeral. *Awkward moment.....*. The confused aalim then went to the dead mans wife and talked to her.

The Aalim: K... so i heard this man drinks, sleeps around and commits theft.

The wife : Myeah.. ?

The Aalim: Yeah, so its like last night I had a dream that I should attend and pay respect at his funeral...

The wife: Mkay.. ?

The Aalim: Pfft.. So, what gives?

The wife : Well, one thing bout him is every morning, he never misses his Subuh prayers at the masjid with other jamaah. And when he prays he will ask for forgiveness and only God knows how he's really sincere about it.


The moral of the story is, God sees beauty in a different way than we do. What matters most is if the heart is clean and pure. You may pray 5 times a day but you don't invite others to pray with you or advice them to pray. Coz you only want yourself to look good. And the others look like sinners. Stinky heart you got there. So whats the point bro?


K, got to make breakfast for the kids.. bye..


p/s: LACK OF UNDERSTANDING AMONG EACH OTHER: if you dont understand, you dont have to disagree!

Unlike you, I'm fasting.. but I'm chewing gum...

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From my point view, a good muslim is not measured by how well he knows his religion, but how much he practices it.

I may know a lot about genetics but that doesn’t make me a good geneticist when I have never applied my knowledge anywhere. To be good at something, you need experience.

What I mean by the word “experience” above is not of the things that you’ve done in the past such as your glory, your faults, etc. Moreover, it’s by experiencing the determination of “moving towards to becoming a good muslim”.


To me, Quran verses are never to condemn anyone; be it to the believers or non-believers..(Justin Beliebers? :D). The intentions in each ayat are not to make one feel distress or angry, but to make us feel challenged. Challenged to what They have dared. They tell us to do good and we are then told that the results will be as such. And if we do bad, penalties are as such and such. The consequences of the dares are told beforehand. It’s a book of guidance. Dare to do good or to be bad, you bear the consequences yourself.


I don’t mind if anyone wants to use any ayat Quran or hadeeth to correct others. But I think the best way to show it is by leading the example. If you start preaching about something but you aren’t even following your preaches, then it’ll be hard for people like me to take the advice from you. Because I won’t see any correlations between the two. And frankly, it irritates me. Ngehehe..:P ..If you want to preach the opposite of what you’re doing , then after you preach, stop doing it instantly. Then only I can be like “whoa…that’s awezome…”


I like it when someone shares their opinion in a way that their intention is to share their knowledge and not to show off what they know-(in a mean arrogant way). Some people I observe like to slam others using ayat Quran/ hadeeth without knowing the asbab ul nuzul and without having great knowledge of what they are saying. They only know the surface of the story and they use some verses/hadeeth and start preaching like they’re God. Come on man. You’re just a small fry who reads a book or two. To acquire knowledge, you need good teachers too. (it rhymes!)


Be humble in sharing knowledge. That’s the moral story of my post today. That’s what I intend to say. And a reminder to all (including me): even if you have repented, don’t criticize someone who has not. You were in their shoes once. Instead of condemning, why not show some love and care?

Wallahua’lam.

pizza <3

Sorry seems to be the hardest word.

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Forgiveness,
Is more than saying sorry
Forgiveness,
Means accepting peoples flaws

-Anna Faris

Forgiving can be a difficult task for some. Especially when the person who is at fault never came to apologize.

Have you ever experienced the act of being FORCED to forgive someone by a higher authority? And once you did, that someone gave you a smirk indicating: he/she had won. (>>.<<)
My mom used to do that to me all the time specially when it involves my older sibling.


Frankly, I really admire someone who forgives easily to others for any mistakes/wrong they’ve done. My father told me once in the car while on the way to KL the other day, about the story of a man and his neighbor.

There was a wise-kind-gentle man who had this one mad-angry neighbor. Every day the neighbor would throw his garbage at the gentle man’s door! Then, one day, the garbage stopped appearing. The kind man wondered why and asked people about what had happened to his neighbor. He was told that the neighbor was sick, in bed. So, what the kind hearted man did was; he went and visited his angry neighbor to make sure he’s ok and to wish him well. The neighbor felt so embarrassed that he then embraced the kind man character when he recovered and became angry no more.

Many has narrated that it was the story of Prophet Muhammad (p.b.u.h) and his Jewish neighbor. However, since there is no authentication of the source I dare not claim that it’s a hadeeth. ( And the story is a bit more different.. hihi)

But lets put aside religion facts and lets emphasize on the jeez of the story. What’s most important is that, this story teaches us the value of always to be forgiving. Because by showing good virtues to others, it will make one realize that there’s a chance of being happy again (and sing along Barney’s “Happy Happy” song together with your friends).

Being forgiving to me is like keeping yourself away from becoming revengeful.

When we’re angry or full of vengeance, not only we’ll be depressed, but we will also constantly be giving out negative thoughts to ourselves and our surrounding. These thoughts will offer us a ‘not good’ feeling. And that’s pretty much…..STRESSFULL!!

However, I understand that some people have the tendency to take advantage of the constant-forgiver. Huh tell me about it. I’ve experienced it my whole life (no, I’m not ever the forgiver nor am I the advantage taker, I’m just the OBSERVER). To those people, well, I just wish they change.

Yes, I’m not an easy forgiver myself; but I tend to let things pass by and forgive anyway. I just don’t know how to be mad at someone for so long specially when its for a small matter like a stupid misunderstanding. But somehow, it would be nice if someone would apologize and forgive and move along with the world (wth am I saying..lol..) .

Remember: Apologizing doesn’t always mean you are wrong and the other person is right, it just means that you value your relationship more than your ego.

XOXO;
Ameera

Choose Me Pick Me Love Me And Dont Hate Me...

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Life is not just said as a gamble, but a jungle too; where the strong conquers and the weak perish.

Just look around. Everywhere name it; in school, what our society does is compete compete and competing to be the best. To be chosen. To be the one. To sit on that spot; THAT chair. To be THE man; holding the arms of THAT lady.

If life was simple, and WE are not picky, ‘living’ would be a very delightful experience- “ no problemas”. The problem is; we are not simple. In fact we are categorized as complex organisms by my text book.

We all want certain things in life; to satisfy our desires, aim and goal. I'm not just emphasizing on the apprentice cands here but am also talking on behalf of Trump.

Have you ever heard about the story of the perfect lady?

This perfect lady rejects every men who had asked for her hand; saying that those men aren’t perfect enough for her. Until one day that she found herself her perfect guy and told him that she would like him to become her husband and that perfect guy rejected her and said he is yet to find someone who is perfect for himself.

Or what about the story of King Arthur?

For those that are not familiar with the story of King Arthur; the story is about a sword that stuck in a stone. The one who’s able to pull it out will rule the kingdom. Coz according to the ‘sword’ a.k.a Excalibur, it can only be owned by a ‘true king’.

See how fussy life is? They are even pickier than I am! (And my mom complains about my ‘particularity’..sheesh..)

Okay, I bet some are wondering like: what’s the relation between my statement on competing and being picky. I don’t know how to explain this.. but I hope with this example; you’ll get to know how they are related..

Ali , Ahmad and Abu are all good, intelligent and smart guys who are competing for the number one spot in becoming the ‘Smartest Guy Alive’. The winner gets a YAMAHA KEYBOARD to be given to Princess Ameera the next day. *nyaaahaha- I luv making my own fairytale*

THEY: are competing with each other

The Smartest Guy Alive position is the : PICK-AN; A fussy choosy ‘thing’! ( You’re the one who’s making my life MISERABLE!!!!! WHY DO I HAVE TO WANT YOU!!)

Nothing wrong with being either one of them. But I have some advice (hahaha.. call me Esther Hicks) for them both

Lets put our shoes in "competitors" position first.

These guys are the best among the others.

In most competitions, there would be a time where one can’t rely on anyone else’s mistakes or slipups anymore. There would come to a time where everybody is at par with everyone. Nobody is weaker than the other.

The real fight begins now. It is the battle between you and yourself.

To offer the best of you and what you’ve got. No one else matters anymore. It’s all about you again. About showing your uniqueness, about exploring yourself, about acknowledging your capability, what you can do, how far you could go. It’s all only you.

And if PICK-AN (chooser/picker) don’t find you good enough for them; then don’t give up. In the animal kingdom as I said earlier, the weak dies. But we are not animals. So, why do we have to follow THEIR rules? And just because we loss it doesn’t mean that we are the weak ones. We are fighters! Come on man!

DO I HAVE TO REPEAT MYSELF?? THE REAL BATTLE IS BETWEEN YOU AND YOURSELF!

Therefore, we should not quit. Because what you’ve done to reach what and where you are today is not something easy and you should never regret it. Instead, open your eyes for better opportunities. Maybe that thing you aimed for is actually not perfect enough for you anyway and that ‘perfect THING’ is still in-search for you. Who knows, right? :)

NOW lets talk about the ‘Pick-er/ Pick-AN’/chooser (wat the fish... =_=)

Lets not blame them for being very picky. We all have our own reasons for everything right. :)Try not be irrational and think logically. If you were given so many choices to choose from; ie: watermelon; you’d definitely choose the big sweet juicy one right? Rather than a big but less sweet ones? I mean, you’re paying a lot of money for it; (RM7 perkg IS a lot)…u’d definitely want to pick the best right? But sometimes, one thing we should remember is to not be too particular with stuff and try accept things the way they are. Because if you expect perfection too much in a person/thing; and it may not come out to your expectation; you are the one who's going to be disappointed the most.

In conclusion : Santai lah braiiiii... (yes, I'm addicted to inianuar's video blog 'eeew')

Hmmm… it might not make any sense to you…

I’m sorry for my way of conveying my message is….very….COMPLEX(and weird)…coz as said earlier… I’m a complex organism.. hihi.. I’m soo sleepy now is 1:21 a.m already… good night all..

This journal is actually a note to myself...fml...nyt..

To have a friend, is to be a friend

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“A friend is one of the nicest things you can have, and one of the best things you can be.”

Hey you guys.. miss me? :D How’ve you been doing?

Yesterday my friends and I went for an evening outing to Teluk Cempedak. Gotta, HAFTA love the beach! And monkeys?? :-S I’m very much thankful to be surrounded with friends like mine. Coz they’re always there not only when I wanna have fun but also when I need advice or help. Furthermore, they’re not afraid to correct me whenever I do something far beyond right. They’re like the family I’ve never wanted. :P And despite the differences among the four of us, we could still tolerate and learn a lot from each other.

“Friends are like rainbows, They brighten up your life once you've been through a storm”

Some other people, I realize, do stick with their cliques too, during bad times and good times. However, some of them in some way tend to deny each other’s faults when they clearly know the wrong.

Denying and keeping each other’s faults as a secret are two different things.

Sometimes it is hard to tell someone about their faults. Especially when their mood is not aligned with the real situation, they might not even accept our advice at that time because they can only see their point of view at that time. Therefore, the disagreement or advice you have in mind for your friend is put on halt, and his/her fault remained silent until the right time comes. (summary: fault left a secret)

Denying, on the other hand, means agreeing to the fact that: what their friend does wrong is correct. I don’t know if this is a way of saying “I have your back and you have my support” or it’s because they themselves are doing the same fault as the friend is. In other words, they don’t want to admit that their wrong too. But to me, this shouldn’t be the way.

“Being a good friend doesn’t mean lying to avoid hurt feelings.”

When I want a friend, I want someone who is truthful and not afraid to admit my faults or theirs. Someone, who will stop me from being astray even when they themselves are. Someone, who would tell me to always do good even when they don’t. Some who doesn’t mind being hurt and hurting for the best of me.

“A true friend is the person who no matter how you treated them the day before still keeps their promise to stand by you the next.”

Because to me, that’s what friends are for.

When you love your friends, you don’t want to see them fall. And you only wish the best for them, hoping they would be the best for you too.

Ahh… I’m gonna miss campus life. I have another few months till I graduate. And after that, we’re all gonna live separate lives. Some of us will get married, some will further their studies, some might be working. Hmmmh *sigh*.. But I hope we’ll always be like the girls in “Sex And The City”.

Dear girlfriends.. guess who is who?



:) Good night all..

I have changed ...

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Have you ever sneezed so hard till the tissue tears apart?? I just did. Now that’s THE definition of coolness. B-).

Hi everyone! Welcome and thank you for visiting my mind-numbing blog! It’s the perfect site for you to read in order to get yourself to sleep or your cat to bed.

Haha . joking. I know my blog is OWZEMZ!!-read: Awesome.. >.<

"Are you changing?
You are changing
We are changing
Let's change together

-Mafia Bianca LLC; 'I am changing'.

Some people are horrified with changes. They hate the fact that ‘NOW IT’S DIFFERENT’. If possible, they would want time, to stay still.

Kittens to stay cute. Pierce Brosnan to never age. And FACEBOOK to never revolutionize their site.

If you’re a fast pick up, you should already realize by now that I’m one of the “some people”. And I’m frustrated by the change of facebook profile page. But then again, let’s still keep your eyes wide open and not talk about me. Let’s talk generally from my telescopic view.

Have you ever experienced being close to someone when you were young and suddenly became completely strangers 10 years after that? Okay maybe 10 years is pretty much too long to be apart from each other, how about2 years then?

Or

How bout when you’re sent to boarding school and came back after that just to find out your room was paint in a different color because your mother thinks the old wallpaper was too gothic?


Personally, I don’t HATE changes. But I must confess that it takes time for me to adjust with a new environment.

To me, there’s no one to blame if things change coz I don’t see there’s a wrong to it. It’s a part of the life cycle. But to change for the better or for worse, it’s up for us to decide. We are big and ugly enough to know what’s wrong and right.

However, sometimes, I feel sad when I have to encounter this one feeling. The feeling; of having to accept the change in something that I really like just the way it is. It’s not like it’s a bad change, but it’s just gonna be different, you see.

I wonder when my sisters get married later, will our family still be like ‘this’?

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Therefore, I think I should give more appreciation to what I have now and treasure each moment before it changes.


Again…it’s all about me.. -_-“

Whocares.. its my blog..:P

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Happy flu day everyone.. -__-".
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LOOOL.. :P

But I love South Park.. so how? :-S

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Is it me? or the usage of certain sayings like : "InsyaAllah" and "Alhamdulilah" has been misused in Malaysia??

Its sad on how some people can put religion as a joke. Mild joke is okay, to me. But jokes that mocks are not okay; to me.

Last Ramadhan, I saw a banner at a pub in Kuantan, Pahang which says: "Berbuka Puasa Special" and another pub in KL was also offering 2 free alcoholic drinks as Ramadhan promotion.

First of all, dont they know that Muslims are not suppose to drink alcohol in the first place and not only when they are FASTING? Fyi, when we are fasting we cant even DRINK COLD MINERAL WATER.

And what do they mean by "Berbuka Puasa Special"?? Well, they might serve halal food but the surrounding is still not.

And to me the best promotion they could actually offer is not the "free alcoholic drinks" but the "NO ENTRY" sign for all muslims.


Sometimes, it makes me wonder if one fasts for the culture or the religion.

I'd want to share with you a story:
( p/s:I might get some facts wrong, it was a long time ago story, but the jeez of the story is in it)

An uncle of mine shared a story once, about his trip to one of the Europoean countries where he and one of his colleagues; a muslim, were searching for a restaurant to break their fast. And this particular colleague of his INSISTED that they go to a place whereby it does not serve pork as a dish. Anyway, to cut the story short, after hours of searching, they found a restaurant with HALAL eating meat (meat slaughtered by the Jews, Christians or Muslims *people of the book*). So his friend, ordered a ribeye steak and confirmed with the waiter that its Kosher meat. Yes, it was.

And to complete his meal, he then ordered a sparkling red wine.

What the heck?? Thats just perfectly stupid.

He's so scared of eating pork thinking that it's forbidden for us Muslims but never bear in mind that to drink or even ORDER wine is forbidden when you are a muslim? Just because the word

"BABI" - pig;

is a taboo word among the Malays, he refused to eat it. This is totally the joke of the century!


Well, anyway, today, I read someone's status and she said something like

"Alhamdulillah, today I am finally legal to go clubbing! Thanks Abah. Zouk! Here I come!!"

Hmm.... Thats awkward...Dont you think the text above is a bit weird? If you want to express your happiness, I really understand; but please put away the 'Alhamdulillah'. Its really mocking my religion as in Islam, we are told to stay away from places that will lead us to adultery, ma'siat and things that will astray us from God.

hmm hmmm..

Its not that I'm always writing; to tell you about other people's faults. Many of the posts are actually a reminder to myself. I have tonnes of mistakes and I keep on making them; no doubt. And I share my mistakes on my blogs too but in a form of reminding. (So, i wouldn't look as bad.. hihi). But my point of writing is to share about the experience that I see and maybe it might help you and me to think wisely in any ways.
(And I'm truly trying my best to become a better and not repeat my mistakes (if there's any..lool.joking..i have loads!! i swear!!), so plz pray for me. thanx)


I just hope for the best to happen to all of us. Thats all.
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Digger but not a gold digger.

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One thing I realize about certain people is that they seem to take pleasure in digging stories about others. Sometimes I wonder if their lives are so dull till they could spare their whole time minding other people’s business. It’s not cute to be nosy all the time, you see. It actually brings down ones respect towards you.

There are three types of nosy people that I’ve encountered in my life.

One, is the type that just wants to know the story and keep to herself. Second, is the type who just want to get updated with the current topic so she wouldn’t be left out in the conversation. And the third one, this is the most treacherous of all; is the type who likes to dig other people’s stories ; hoping for bad points to be revealed.

Sometimes, these people of the third type might even add up some spices to the stories or even twist and turn the words according to their pleasure.

One thing good about people with good values are; others tend to love and want to protect them from the evil doings- of others.

And usually, good people clique with the ‘good groups’. So, if you try to bxtch around about a good person to another good person; or if you are wanting to ‘investigate’ about a good person by digging and questioning another good person in order to get even the slightest juicy gossip, what makes you think that she is gonna spill anything to you?? LOOOL! In fact, you’re a joke to us! Hihi.. Sorry, but it’s true.

You can fake for being nice but the impureness within you makes it hard for everyone around you to be able to see it, what more to believe your stories.

And please, lets not humiliate other people and make fun of them. It’s not good to belittle others. One might not be as talented as you are now, but who knows one day, that person will become far much better than you ever were. It’s Karma. Try to believe in that. It helps one to be careful from doing bad to others. :)

Btw, do you know that by having a bad heart it makes you ugly? Physically and mentally. Kind people have that humbleness in their face stuck within; like my dad says,

“There’s a certain kind of purity in a face of a kind person which others with bad heart lack”

A person with a bad heart, how beautiful she might be, you can still see the insincerity of her even when she smiles sweetly. Nothing, not even the thickest foundation can cover that. Your eyes don’t lie.

This is actually a disease. And the people who is in the 3^rd type of group is actually sick! Hihi. No, seriously. But no worries, remedies are there to recover a person with this illness. And I’m here to nurse you into curing. See how kind I am, to actually help you after all that you’ve said about us. (LOOL.. joking ..am not that kind.. I’m as evil as medusa sedusa..nyahahahah! beware… :P )

One is: always be thankful to God for whatever things He has given you. Try to be appreciative of what you have. Always say “Thank you God” for everything. With this, you’ll become more satisfied with yourself and you don’t have the need to be little others anymore just to confirm yourself that you are already the best in what you do.

Two: Observe other’s who are less fortunate than you are. With this, you will be more humble and you will become less competitive towards others.

Three: Be happy for yourself AND FOR OTHERS. When you are happy for others, you yourself will become a happy person. Sharing is caring remember? So share your happiness with others too – without the thought of competing.

And finally : Stop being jealous of other people’s achievements. Everybody is good at different things. If you tend to focus on the things other people are only good at and want to compete with them in that way, you will never discover what YOU are best at. Mind your own business for once and try to explore yourself rather than ‘exploring’ other people’s lives. Seriously.

Beautiful is not only scaled from your physical attributes but also from your self within. And although, you are MasyaAllah very beautiful physically but you have a stinky heart.*phheew*

After this, I’m just going to ignore and forget about the things that had happened (cause this is not the first time I heard stories coming from you pun actually. We might have been very quiet about it but it doesn’t mean that we do not know. As I said before, other good people tend to help and protect others in need. We just do not tend to make small things big.) But I sure wish that you would change. Because I know that deep in you, you are a nice person. And I can bet, that you’ll be happier if you start loving yourself and others as well. Clean your heart and youre a shining star! ;-)

Trust me. :)

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"For the rest of my life I'll be with you. I'll stay by your side honest and true, 'til the end of my time I'll be loving you loving you"- Maher Zain

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“T.O.L.E.R.A.N.S.I”

It reads “tolerance” in English.
What makes a relationship last? In my opinion being tolerant towards each other’s flaws is what holds a relationship together.

I once read;

“To be in a relationship is not to find a right partner, but to be one”.

Well said indeed. We can’t expect a person to be perfect while we just hang around here-full of faults. That’s pretty much unfair; don’t you think?

Every time I speak about relationships, I bet many ; especially readers of my age group would think about the boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. But I’m actually emphasizing more on marriage.

I know, who am I, right? To actually talk about relationships? I’m not yet married nor do I have boyfriends to compare my experiences with. But from what I’ve been observing, that’s one of the key points to a successful relationship.

Marriage is not a one day occasion. Its not like a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship where it’s sweet and fun all the time or where you can break up 100x and get together again the next day and pretend as if nothing happened.

It’s easy to be in a bf-gf relationship because you do not OWN each other. You don’t have responsibilities upon each other. Your family is not of your partner’s concern. You still have full independence on yourself and you are not tied up.

Marriage on the other hand is something different. It’s very sacred. It’s a life-time commitment. Especially for girls; your life now, is a life TO your husband. Your father gave you away for another man to take care of you. Therefore, your duty is now to obey and let your new man lead you. You are no longer under your father’s responsibility. You are now building your own empire with your husband. You become a team with him– where you and your husband actually DEPEND on each other for support. You should hold on to each other’s back; good times and hard times.

Therefore, the need to learn on how to understand and compensate with our partner is very important. "Marriage life can be very difficult", I’ve been told many times. But it doesn’t mean that we should give up that easily when we encountered with a misunderstanding. Work things out to make things better. If you simply give up, to me, it’s like you’re stopping the love to grow between you. And you might not even experience the best of him/her.

However, the word toleration should not be misunderstood by misusing it, or taking it for granted.

Misused toleration in my own words means tolerance with less practicality and more towards sympathy.

Case study example: You bear with your relationship although you are aware that your partner is a woman beater, abuser and a liar.
Reason you stay put: "Sabar separuh iman(Patience is apart of Iman)" or "True Love"
Result from the misusage: You get hurt a lot of times
Rational thing to do (according to me): Get out of the marriage before he kills you… seriously… he’s not worth your bruises and you’re not worth his lies.

Taking things for granted on the other hand is like this :

Example: You’re a wife and your hubby doesn’t like you hanging out with your friends when he’s back from work.
Story line: You got away with it all the time coz he’s not the type to quarrel over small matters. Probable outcome: If this happened too frequently, he might get fed up with everything and leave you.
Solution: Just be obedient, he just came back from work and all he wants is to spend his time at home with you; to tell about his stories and problems or just to have someone to comfort him. Go spend time with your friends when he’s away at work. Moron! Lool..jk..!! I swear.. :D

Marriage is always a win-win situation. We ladies need somebody responsible to hold on to and to look after us while those gentlemen need someone he loves to prepare good food for him, takes care of his clothes and give him well mannered offspring(read: children).

No one I know would want a non-lasting marriage. When you marry someone, I bet all you dream of are the good things in life. To have an everlasting years of happiness together and to die in each other’s arms. That’s not impossible. Not impracticable at all. But like any other things, we have to work for it. Life is hard and so is love. But history proved that some had them easy. And that’s what made life wonderful. When we strive for something we really love.

Although sometimes, I do have to agree, that in some situations, being apart (splitting) would be the best solution for everyone(involved). Well, that’s a different story. To me, as long as you’ve tried your best to make the relationship last, its good enough. If it doesn’t work out, then it just not meant to be. But at least you've tried hard enough, right?

So as a conclusion you must have these values for a lasting relationship:
ADEQUATE TOLERANCE, UNDERSTANDING AND FORGIVENESS.

Footnote:
Life isn’t as easy as theory. I might be wrong. This is just from my point of view. :)

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The REAL unfairness in life lies within you. :)

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Often we shout that ­– life is unfair. Proposing that we should not be treated in this kind of manner and we deserve something more meaningful in life. Some of us bark as our needs were not being fulfilled. Others pray faithfully anticipating for good news from God. Yet, nothing happened.

Everything stays the same. Ali is still barking at his washed out Milan jersey, and Ahmad’s proceeding on to his 28^th sunnah prayer.

That’s considered a tremendous holy achievement by Ahmad; considering the fact that he had not had his fardhu prayers in at least the past couple of years. 28 times 2; means he knelled to God almost 56 times; just today! AHMAZING! Oh plus, it’s been exactly 48 hours since he last had his drink. *whispers* He stays in Australia, he needs to put up with the culture *nods comprehensibly *.

Reaching his 29^th now.

Yet his phone stays muted. He’s actually waiting for a call. A job promotion. If the secretary doesn’t call him by 5 p.m, means he’ll maintain his job at the 5^th floor. Otherwise, up to the 7^th floor he goes as the new General Manager of WhatNot Company. =)

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Which lead me to a thought?

Say if I were God, would I be giving someone his dream job when he never say a simple “I love you, God” to me or maybe a “Hi God” in that matter? He’s sucha snob! And plus, he has that annoying HUMONGOUS nose which really turns me off.

Seriously, do you think I should give him what he wants? He brings no good to me. He barely praises my beauty or even say thanks for the soft wind I blew him that night while he was sleeping; when there’s a black out at his residence. Well, okay, I might consider since his mother is such a big fan of mine. Waking up late at night just to tell me how grateful she is with what I gave her and blah blah what not. Okay2 maybe… …MAYBE….

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So, this will then direct us to few possible consequences.

1) Ahmad gets his job. Realize the power of God. Start being thankful by praying fardhu prayers.. bit by bit.. (which is wallahi already a good news..more than a mother could ask for)

2) Ahmad gets his job, and say “Oh God Thanks so much I love You!’ ‘ Hello, Jacob, I nailed it! Lets have some beer. Meet you at Zouk. Catch up with some pretty ladies on the dancing floor, yeah man?!! Woooooohooo!!’”

3) Ahmad didn’t get the job. Realize that he has not prayed enough. Continue praying till the girl calls him up and said it was a bloody mistake. Ahmad’s name was up all the time.

4) Ahmad didn’t get the job. Take off his hidden knee guard and curse the whole thing.

Hmmmm…..

To me..Its pretty much unfair you know.. when we only find God at our own time. When we are religiously asking for him at our own convenience.. Worldly convenience. When we want Him to not flop us in our exams, when we want Him to stop the disasters (volcano, tsunami) in our country. We always find Him when we’re in trouble.

It’s unfair. He didn’t create us just to tell Him about the catastrophes in the world. We should be more appreciative at things. Don’t tell me we have been living in despair our entire lives. I mean, I’m sure there must be some happy times too. Like the day when we had fun hvg picnic with our family. Why can’t we say;

“hey God, thanks very much , I had a very fun time with my family just now. I wouldn’t mind to have such get together again. And thank you god, for giving me such a blissful and happy family with beautiful nieces. I have no way else to repay you but to pray to you for all your kindness. Btw,

“Subhanallah walhamdulillah wala ila ha illah wallahu akbar”.

I know that just a bit and simple. But for now, while I’m still at the garden with my family, packing up to go home, that’s the only way I can afford to say thanx n praise you at the same time. And God, I love you ya. :* .”

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It doesn’t matter HOW you do it or HOW you say it. As long as you keep remembering God and instill the love in you for Him without having a time limit or schedule, its reaaaaally good enough. He’s always there for you. Why cant WE be there for Him at all times? Who’s the creator now buddy?

From the way I say things, it’s as if I’m trying to impose that I am good and I’m actually asking all to do the same. But the truth is, my post is based on self-experience. I’m not very grateful of what I have.

Many times, have I been given chances from God yet I took them for granted. Until I become desperate. Then I’ll come searching for God again. Its not that I forget Him. Its just that, when I want something badly then only I listen carefully to my recitation in my prayers. Then only I take my own sweet time with God. Then only I really make my time with him.

A reader asked me once in my formspring.me page: “Are you really a good girl or just pretending?”

Well, the truth is,I’m trying my best to become a good girl. Am not fully nice or good. I have my mistakes. I did some wicked things too. But I’m trying to improve myself day by day. And I’m hoping for your support too.

Kay gotto study.

bye

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i hate school btw.. n exam.. for now..